There are four men in Emma's life about whom we'd like to know a great deal more:
- the man waiting at home, to whom Emma suggests in her Autobiography she is engaged, and with whom she breaks in 1856, encouraging him to marry a woman who has made him a proposal of marriage (which Emma has learned from her spirit guides, from remote viewing, or from astral travel - she does not say).
- the "baffled sensualist" who ends Emma's career on the London stage, and who keeps Emma from the time of her last performance in London in mid-1854 until she bolts for Paris with the Wallack Company in 1855.
- the "statesman" for whom Emma acts as amanuensis (as she claims in the Banner of Light in 1858)
- her first husband (since Emma alleges an early marriage at several points in her career, and claims to be a widow at the time of her marriage to William Britten in 1870)
I've suggested elsewhere that:
- the leading candidate for #1, based on the internal evidence of Emma's novel, The Mystery of No. 9 Stanhope Street, is Roddam Stanhope Spencer, the pre-Raphaelite painter.
- the best guess for #2 is, at present, Charles Dickens.
- #3 is a distortion of her relationship with Edward Bulwer Lytton.
That leaves us with #4.
I've said before that I think Emma lied about a marriage before her marriage with William. She may even have lied to William about it; certainly, she was in print, before the time of her marriage, with claims to a prior marriage; and she had herself listed herself as a widow in the registry on the day she married William in 1870.
People have wanted -- still want, I think -- to have Emma marrying a Hardinge, despite the fact that we can find her, in the historical record, as Miss Emma Harding and Miss Emma Hardinge, before she adopts the titular Missus. The prosaic, and likely explanation -- that she adopted the Mrs. because it made it easier for her to travel in American (as she did) unchaperoned -- doesn't seem....something... enough for people, I guess. E. J. Dingwall made it a fraudulent "mystical marriage" to get around the fact that no records of any real marriage could be found, and because he needed a deep psychic wound to explain Emma's obsession with "outcast women" and her apparent distaste for sex, but that's special pleading, at best.
Granted, Emma went out of her way, in my opinion, to permit people to assume associations between herself with the family of Viscount Hardinge. When she added the 'e' to Harding, she did so not merely because it made her more English, but because it suggested an association with the family of the man who'd been Governor-General of India (1844-48), Commander-in-Chief of the British armed forces (1853-56) and British Field Marshall (1855), and who was well know internationally.
But she never made the connection explicitly.
An interesting example of a story by Emma, in print, suggesting but declining to make explicit a connection between herself and English nobility, comes from a volume (thanks, Michael) entitled
The Encyclopedia of Death and Life In The Spirit-World (1895), edited by J. R. Francis, the manager of the Progressive Thinker publishing operation in Chicago. The story by Emma, entitled "A Vision by Emma Hardinge Britten" is
available here, but I'll quote the relevant section verbatim:
He was a man whom no description can fully represent to the inhabitants of the western continent, for he was of a class unknown in American experiences -- a peer of the British realm; the elder brother of a wealthy, noble and far-descended house, and marked actor in that peculiar drama which is only played amongst the members of the British aristocracy.
You could not follow me, my American friends, were I to attempt for you a description of the stately earl and his peculiar sphere of action; happy for you you cannot; for the sum of all is told when I translate his life in this: His birth, position, the law of primogeniture, and other specialities, had manufactured a rich nobleman and a capacious mind into a bad man, notorious for his enormous gallantries in public life, and his equally enormous tyrannies in private life. This man had lived for self, and used time, talents, wealth and station, for no other purpose than the gratification of self and selfish passions....
In my youth I had known this man. I had often read Shakespeare to him, sang and played for him; and, despite some awe with which his singularly stately presence inspired me, I returned his regard for me with perhaps more of interest than the young and innocent generally yielded to him. My full understanding of his character was a revelation of after years. Since I have been in America, the journals of home have brought the intelligence of the great man's transit into "the land of rest".
I had become a believer in Spiritualism about a year; and then, as often since, had wondered why that spirit never sought communion with the girl who remembered him kindly, and with whom dark shadows of wrong had never been associated.
Assuming Emma is dating the event accurately (in 1857 or 1858, after she had been "a believer in Spiritualism for about a year"), there are some interesting clues in this narrative:
- a wealthy, noble and far-descended house would rule out the Hardinges immediately; Viscount (not Earl) Hardinge was enobled; his father was a clergyman, and although Henry Hardinge's son Charles Stewart did inherit his father's title, it's more than a stretch to view Charles Stewart as "the elder brother" (which he was) of such a house. And Charles Stewart's younger brother, Arthur Edward, spent his entire career in the military, and was Equerry to Queen Victoria -- again, hardly a picture of licentiousness and self-indulgence.
- lived for self, and used time, talents, wealth and station, for no other purpose than the gratification of self and selfish passions would also rule out Henry Hardinge, who spent all but about four years of his life in strenuous government service. It would rule out Charles Stewart Hardinge, who was his father's secretary, an MP, under-secretary for war, and an accomplished amateur artist. It would rule out Bulwer-Lytton (who was not an eldest brother, but who otherwise fits the description fairly well), as Lytton, too, performed singularly strenuous government service, while leaving a literary legacy that, if it doesn't put him in the first rank of Victorian writers, certainly puts him in the second rank. It would rule out John Roddam Spencer Stanhope, the painter, who -- while he had done no work of consequence by the mid-1850s, was studying seriously.
- since I have been in America, the journals of home have brought the intelligence of the great man's transit into "the land of rest" could rule in Henry Hardinge, who died in 1856, but certainly rules out his son Charles Stewart (d. 1894), Bulwer Lytton (d. 1873), and Roddam Spencer Stanhope (d.1908).
On balance, there is however one figure in Emma's life -- a figure she names in other materials of roughly contemporary date -- that her vague description does fit, and that is Philip Henry Stanhope.
- a wealthy, noble and far-descended house: Philip Henry was the 4th Earl Stanhope, and was indeed an earl, jiving with Emma's description. The Stanhope family is indeed a "wealth, noble and far-descended house", stemming from the line of the Earls of Chesterfield in the late 1600s. Philip Henry was 4th Viscount Stanhope of Mahon, and 4th Baron Stanhope of Elvaston, before succeeded to his ultimate peerage on his father's death. But he was an only son, from Charles Stanhope's second marriage.
- lived for self, and used time, talents, wealth and station, for no other purpose than the gratification of self and selfish passions fits Philip Henry Stanhope, as far as we have biographical information on him, to a tee, in my estimation. Stanhope spent his life wandering, experimenting, and enjoying himself, leaving as a legacy his ambiguous role in the Caspar Hauser affair, his love of skrying, and a son, Philip Henry, who as the fifth Earl Stanhope would do some work towards redeeming his father by becoming a decent historian.
- since I have been in America, the journals of home have brought the intelligence of the great man's transit into "the land of rest". Stanhope died in March of 1855. The timing is not quite right, is it? But it's close.
Of course, this is just Emma, telling a story, late in her life, when she was telling other stories, and when she was -- as far as I can see -- marginalized within in the Spiritualism movement in England because of her position on various issues associated with institutionalization, marginalized within the Spiritualism movement in the US because she was in England, and (with very good reason) bitter about where she found herself. It proves nothing, this story -- nothing about Stanhope, and certainly nothing about Henry Hardinge, though the timing, on reflection, may help to explain a few things about that critical period from mid-1854 until mid-1855 (which I'll come back to in another post).
What's most troubling, when all is said and done, about what Emma does hint about her relationships with famous men, in this and other printed accounts, is this: there's nothing she tells us about these figures that she could not have learned from reading the Times, or having a good gossip with any well-connected figure in mid-Victorian London.
Labels: Emma Harding, Emma Hardinge, Emma Hardinge Britten, Emma Hardinge-Britten